(Real Talk) Plastic Surgery

I have gotten a lot of emails lately about my loose skin and if I plan on having it removed. There have also been plenty of comments made on different sites featuring my story, that I NEED to have it removed because it’s gross. Oh people are funny! My loose skin is a part of me, not some mutant growth that holds alien eggs (yes, someone said this). Lol.

My loose skin is a result of a massive weight loss, not because I had a weight loss surgery (not that I have anything against that) or because I lost the weight too quickly (took me 4 1/2 years to lose my weight. That’s an average of a little over 1 pound a week. Healthy weight loss is .5lb to 2lbs a week). This is what can happen after losing 172 pounds.

Yes, it can be tightened up with exercise and sure there are the wraps and creams that promise miracles, but at the end of it all, surgery is the answer.

My Thoughts On Plastic Surgery by Brooke: Not On a Diet

Will I have surgery?

Yes.

Now before I get backlash about it, let me explain.

This loose skin isn’t fun. It makes fitting into some clothing difficult, it flaps when working out, and it causes icky rashes.

I won’t be getting skin removal surgery because I hate my body. I will be getting it because doing so will improve my quality of life in the end. Carrying this stuff around sucks, but I MUCH rather have the excess skin than the excess weight I carried around for years. I would be lying if I said I loved it all the time, there are days I get utterly mad that I have it because it makes fitting into a certain dress tough or it tugs and hurts when I work out. The worst though is the rashes I get around my belly button.

Plastic surgery isn’t something that will be happening in the near future. With insurance not covering it for the most part (you have to show medical need for the surgery and then they only will cover a very small portion), it is entirely too expensive for us at the moment. Also, Mr. B and I want to have children and I can’t see tightening everything up only to stretch it out again. I know there are people who do that, but I just don’t know if that’s the best move on my part. Honestly, I’m not sure when the surgery will happen, I just have faith that it will when the time is right. Much like everything in life.

When that time comes I know it will be a big surgery and possibly even multiple ones. I have skin to be removed not only on my stomach/abdomen, but also my arms and thighs. To think of being under for hours on end is terrifying. And then to find a reputable surgeon is a huge task in itself as well. It would be awful to have something go wrong. I’m not going to dwell on all those things right now though because it isn’t my number one priority at the moment.

For now, I’m okay with it, as I said before it’s a part of me. Just like if I had a birthmark or a third nipple, I’d love it just the same.

I will be honest though, I was hesitant to write this post. I’ve declared self-love and loving your body as is a lot lately. So, saying that I want to have the surgery put thoughts of hypocrisy in my head.

Would declaring the fact that I want the surgery conflict everything I’ve said?

Fellow blogger, Courtney talked about this on her blog as well. And I loved what she had to say:

I want to be better because I love myself enough to know I deserve it. I’m not trying to change myself into something else hoping I’ll finally deserve to love myself.

Do I love my body as it is right now?
Of course.

I would be silly not to love it until it was free of loose skin. Much like not loving yourself until you lose weight, it is pointless not to love yourself in your current state. In fact, loving ourselves is part of the reason we decide to do good things for our bodies and souls.

Having the skin removal surgery is something I deserve. I have worked very hard to get the body I have and worked hard mentally to love it as well. Having the surgery again means improving the quality of my life and to me, doing that is one of the greatest forms of self-love.

I feel that any way physically and mentally that improves the quality of life that we are currently living is worth it. You CAN love yourself and still want to improve. I think that’s what life is about, always wanting to live the best version of yourself. And I truly mean YOURSELF, not how society may think you should live.

And if having the plastic surgery means that for me, then I’m doing it.

As always, share your thoughts below!

And remember, keep it kind. I appreciate honesty, but do it with tact. I do reserve the right to delete anything that doesn’t adhere to this.

Why I Refused to Put a Shirt on For Shape

A week or so ago Shape magazine online reached out to me. They wanted to do success story feature on their site about me. Being someone who enjoys putting herself out there and finding new ways to reach people, I agreed.

We set up a time for an interview and I sent them the following after picture to include.

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The reporter got back to me and said: Thank you! These should work but I’ll let you know if my editor needs anything else. Talk to you soon!

We did the phone interview and chatted for about a half hour about my journey, my weight loss tips, and other things. She was super friendly and I enjoyed talking to her. She let me know that she would work on my piece and get back to me as soon as she knew when it would be published. I figured I’d here back in the next week or so, when only a couple of days later, I got the following email:

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Really? Have you logged on to Shape’s website lately? You can find MANY women in bikinis on the site.

I’m not going to lie, I was absolutely furious with the email and while I wanted to call them every name in the book and tell them how they were wrong. My inner lady (and help of Emily) spoke up and conducted a response:

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I awaited a reply and received the following the next day:

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Again, not happy about it. I was to be a part of their Success Stories feature on the website, where there are women in bikinis. Why all of the sudden was it ‘their policy’?

I sent another email stating the following:

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A few hours later I received a phone call from the woman who interviewed me. She explained that she was just the ‘in-between’ person between Shape and I, and that she had not meant to offend me in any way. She then went on to say that this had nothing to do with me and not wanting to celebrate women’s bodies. That they had just stated it was their policy now to include fully clothed photos for the feature.

She then asked me to reconsider my choice to no longer be featured, that my story is great and I would get a lot of exposure from it. I told her that the exposure wasn’t worth it to me, that I’m an honest person and I didn’t feel like the story was letting me be honest if I couldn’t share that photo. I told her that if their policy was to have fully clothed people, then they needed to do that with the rest of the site as well. She said she understood and that was that.

The whole thing still really frustrates me because I don’t feel like my body was given the same respect as others on their site. Why all of the sudden is it their policy to have fully clothed people? The reporter stated that she wasn’t sure if someone had complained about the previous photos to Shape or not. But in my eyes if someone is complaining about them featuring women in bikinis, then again they shouldn’t have them anywhere on the site.

If anything, the should want my picture on their site. My body is real, not photoshopped or hidden because I feel like I should be ashamed. This is a body after losing 172 pounds, a body that has done amazing things, and looks AMAZING in a freaking bikini.

This is the type of body they should have featured because it can give people hope. Hope that they can lose weight healthfully and even if they don’t end up with airbrushed abs of steel, they’re gorgeous and shouldn’t be ashamed of whatever imperfection they believe they have.

Women today are exposed SO MUCH to what society sees as the ideal body. The perfect hourglass shape with no arm flab, a thigh gap, full lips, perfect breasts, and a flat tummy. We believe from the time we are little girls that to be beautiful we must have these things. If we’re not the ideal beautiful, then we should be ashamed and not feel like we are good enough.

I spent MANY years hating and hiding a body I was ashamed of because it wasn’t society’s ideal of beautiful. Being asked to send a photo of myself with a shirt on made me feel like I again should be ashamed of my body. That since I have the loose skin, I shouldn’t be in a bikini.

I wasn’t willing to do that though. I’ve always been real and honest with you guys around here. That’s what I do.

If I couldn’t have the picture of me in my bikini to go along with my story, then it wasn’t MY story. The story I wanted to tell and shout out to the world, not their ideal story. So, if I couldn’t tell it my way, then they weren’t going to be able to tell it at all.

I was raised to stand up for what I believe in and I believe that if a website posts pictures of women in bikinis, then I should be given that same right. I wasn’t given that, so I decided to decline. Like I said before, the exposure I would have gotten wasn’t worth it to me.

Nothing is worth compromising my beliefs.

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Since this has all happened, Shape and I came to a resolution, which you can read about here!