Attention Seeker, I Am Not & Thank You

As many of you know, I went what kids these days call ‘viral.’ It all happened with this post<- Click if you have no idea what I'm talking about. Well last week, I wrote a piece for the Today Show website about the experience and again am receiving quite a bit of attention for it.

Along with it comes the critics. I learned back in May not to read the comments because some people can be VERY cruel. I can’t say that I have done my best from abstaining from the comments, but I don’t let the cruel ones affect me.

I’ve learned that no one but me gets to decide how I feel about myself.

There are a few comments that just bug the heck out of me though. Those comments are the ones stating that I did this for attention or in hopes of getting free plastic surgery.

At first I was getting angry and wanted to respond to every one of those comments, shouting at the screen that they were wrong. I didn’t do this for attention, I did it because I wanted to stand up for something I believed in, that I did it to show what a body after losing a lot of weight can look like, that I did it because it is another part of my story that could potentially help others.

A lot of attention was a result, not my intention.

I took a step back and realized that the people who say those things, they only know that part of my story. They’re taking that little bit of my entire life and judging it all on that.

They don’t know that I’ve shared much of my weight loss journey with the world to be transparent and to help others in their own journeys. They don’t know that I was offered free plastic surgery (twice) and I turned it down because I’m not ready for that part of the journey (and because the one company looked shady). They don’t know how stressful and crazy my life was when everything went viral.

All they see is me in my bikini and assume that I did it for the attention.

I’m grateful for those who have taken the time to read more of my story, those who have contacted me to find out more, and for those who have been here since the beginning.

Honestly, there isn’t a real reason behind this post except to say thank you.

Thank you to you all who have taken the time to know my story and the times you have supported me, cheered me along, and have just been there to listen. It isn’t always easy to put myself out there like this, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I hope in some tiny way I have either made you think, helped inspire you to make a change, or made you feel not alone. If I have done that, then my story has done its job.

<3

  • Sophia R.

    I found your blog because of that viral story, and I’m glad I did. Your blog give a realistic look at what it is like to lose a lot of weight, how your body looks afterwards, and the emotional roller coaster that can follow. Sadly, for every honest viewpoint like yours, there are 10 stories/articles/photos that give people unrealistic expectations of post-weight loss life. No, your body will probably not be that of a supermodel after weight loss. No, life isn’t magically perfect after weight loss. No, any and all insecurities you may have had while heavier will not magically disappear after weight loss. Just as losing weight takes work, so does learning to love the new you, learning to accept compliments without being suspicious of people’s motives (I’m really bad at this one, curse you fat-kid self defense mechanisms).

    I have lost over 100 lbs since October of 2012 (down almost 140 from my known highest weight) and each day still has it struggles. I have my days where I want to eat everything I see, where I don’t want to exercise, where I beat myself up for not being able to get below 200. On those days I remind myself that it is ok to slip up, I’m human. I remind myself that it is better to give my body a break now and then opposed to half-assing a workout. I remind myself that I lost over 100 pounds, and have kept it off for over a year. That is something to be proud of. Blogs like your remind me that it is ok to love myself, my accomplishments and most importantly, that I need to stop being such a dick to myself, I don’t deserve it (no matter what the trolls of the internet might say).

    What I’m trying to say with this rambling, cathartic post is, THANK YOU!

    • <3 Thank you for your kind words and rambling! πŸ™‚

      And congrats to you on your weight loss thus far! What an accomplishment! Keep loving the skin you're in!

  • Keep It Up, David

    Your bravery continues to astound me, Brooke, and while it’s frustrating that you’re getting such obnoxious comments, I’m proud that you have the strength and the clarity to explain yourself so articulately. Because, as you pointed out, your story IS helping others, and those people may not be as vocal as the trolls. Well done, my friend!

    • Thank you, David! πŸ™‚ I’m so glad we got to meet and hang out this summer! You’re quite the amazing person yourself!

  • Kate

    Your story is inspiring – hopefully women won’t choose to eat themselves to obesity once they see how disgusting the body looks after losing the weight!

  • Stacy Renee White

    That story is actually how I found your blog. And I am so thankful that I did! You are an inspiration!

  • Way to go Brooke! I admire how you handled a difficult situation with dignity and class. And I love the Today piece. Well-said, my friend! Keep on keeping on.

  • Kate

    I am proud of shape magazine – it’s a fitness magazine, not a flabby fat people magazine.

  • Amelia Bain

    You are a fantastic example of a real person who got healthy. And you’re totally right about those who judge without knowing anything, they just don’t matter.

    • As the saying goes: Those who matter, don’t mind and those who mind, don’t matter! πŸ™‚

  • Jessica Yagi

    I had just finished reading your blog from the VERY beginning when the Shape stuff went down. I recently saw you on people.com and felt secretly proud even though I’ve never met you. I love your story and how you have shared it.

    • Thank you for taking the time to read it all, Jessica! πŸ™‚ I’m sure you had a few laughs reading the past. I hope that you continue to stick around!

  • Jasmine Robertson

    I have been following you for several years and I can’t tell you how crazy happy I was to see you in my FB feed on the Today site. You are such an inspiration and I absolutely love reading your posts, thanks for inspiring so many!!! You rock!!

    • Thank you for your kind words, Jasmine! And thanks for following all these years! πŸ™‚

  • Sterndli98

    Because of going viral, I learned about your story. I’m actually on weight watchers too sind january, 20th 2014 and I’will have when I reach my goal too excess skin. That was what I feared and I can say now I don’t fear it anymore.

    • <3 I love that my story has reached you! And congrats to you on taking the steps to better health! I wish you much luck in the journey and hope that I can inspire you in any way possible! πŸ™‚

  • Lee

    Hi Brooke, congrats on your story and I agree there will be critics who say cruel things. Focus on the positive comments and influence the ones who are for you. Take care and God bless. http://www.fatlossfactorxx.com

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